How Can I Feel Safe To Express Myself As A Woman?
For the last two decades I have been fascinated with exploring this question:
How can I feel safe to express myself fully as a woman?
For many years I’ve been exploring embracing my feminine nature and becoming liberated in my expression of it. It has been a deep inquiry for many years how to go about living that.
This is not something I was taught. I had to learn this and now I stand for all women experiencing this. In my experience most women do not feel completely free to be everything that they are – there are many places where they feel held back. This was true for me too.
I was a very creative girl with some alternative sensibilities growing up in a conservative environment in Greenwich, Connecticut. I felt so constrained and often so uncomfortable in my skin because it felt like it wasn’t safe to be who I truly was. I also didn’t feel full permission to be the feminine woman I was.
I was taught a very masculine form of becoming successful in the world and encouraged onto a linear corporate career path at first. I suffered for many years laboring in this way during my career in New York City and I suffered intense burnout.
When I came to create my life in San Francisco many years ago, my world was ecstatically blown open with all the new information and experiences I was having.
I participated in many different women’s circles and workshops, I was trained in a radical new personal growth model, I tapped into the thriving entrepreneurial community, I was exposed to a wide variety of different spiritual paths, I found plant medicine, and I found the underground artist community I have befriended through the bass music and festival scenes. All of this and more helped me get back in touch with my essence that I had forgotten.
Through that journey I reclaimed my latent creativity and musical talent and began to feel safe to express myself as an embodied, sensual woman.
I also began to see that so many women were having the same challenges I was and needed support. And as I looked at the state of women around the planet, I did not like what I saw. I became passionate about offering something that would support the collective movement that is rippling out to inspire true women’s liberation.
We have made strides but as the world regularly shows us, we are nowhere near true women’s liberation yet. So many of our sisters around the world are suffering either direct systemic constraints on our physical freedoms, or we are experiencing mental and emotional challenges that are containing our self-expression and our ability to step into our full power as a woman.
I have been moved to help solve this problem in some small way. This is how my company Femvolution™ was born and why I started coaching women. It’s also why I embarked on creating the Feminine Medicine™ album project.
So I champion all things that support women to feel free in themselves. I share insights and programs that will help women remember and reclaim their voice, their power, and their feminine expression.
I have worked very hard to uncover and release many of the limiting ideas, beliefs, and stories that I had picked up about who or what I should or could be and I like to share my findings and the practices, beliefs, and ideas that have really moved the needle for me.
These days I am the most expressed in my feminine nature when I step on to the stage and make music as ALIA. This is the place where I am the most unconstrained and unapologetic about who I am. This is where I am the least concerned with what people think about me. This is where I most let my passion and my raw experience of my pleasure and enjoyment come out to play. This is where I most embody my teachings and my mission. And, most importantly, this is where I feel the most free.
The way I have unleashed myself from my old life as an unhappy marketing executive to embrace my true essence is the story I most like to tell because I want you all to know you can do it too. I stand as an example and as an embodiment of what can be possible when you let yourself follow the breadcrumbs of your pleasure and joy and embrace the possibility of your Feminine Liberation.
Photo Love: Darren Miller Photography